If you’d like to move on from the perineum and actually enter the anus, lube is essential. Keep in mind that oil-primarily based lubricant eats away at condoms, and silicone-based mostly ones can damage silicone sex toys. But should you’re utilizing your fingers, either of those should be fine. You may think about lube that’s designed only for anal play like Pjur Back Door Silicone Lubricant ($30; Babeland) or a extra general lube like Please Cream Lubricant ($9; Babeland). Be sure not to use any numbing agents, both with or without lube. If you and your companion are each new to anal penetration, or new to it with each other, it’s a good suggestion to start out with a pinky until you both determine to start with an even bigger finger.